Now, I’m no expert by any means,
But from my few experiences, I’ve made a crude map,
Which I’ve drawn with a multitude of mistakes
masquerading as lines.

And I think I know the way:

Be patient, tender, honest, and open, always–
–Even if in so doing it leaves you exposed and vulnerable.

Don’t let minor frustrations lead you to lash out.
Always assume the best intentions in each other.
Believe that your partner is always on your side and act accordingly.

And If they falter, forgive freely and feel it.
And If you transgress, apologize immediately and mean it.

Choose not to see malice where misunderstanding is more likely.
Trust as a child would.
It’s scary, I know.

Always make an effort – sometimes just being there is enough.
Don’t get bogged down by expectations­ – we all need breaks.

Be aware of how you might help and do it.
And accept each other’s offers of aid more frequently than not.

Show love most often in small ways,
For partnerships almost always falter from cracks first.

Speak freely and fully with one another.
Listen. Listen. Listen.
Did you get that last one?

Allow yourself to be challenged.
Ask to be challenged.
But do not ask of your partner what you would not do yourself.

This list must end abruptly.
To conclude with any one item would be misleading
Because so doing might suggest supremacy.
For there is no one effort more important than another.
They all must be done together.

A lattice is only as strong as its weakest link.

Love is the reward and it is also the work.

And in both areas, there is nothing greater than love.

© P.D. Nym 2018